The Goal Age

Today, I turned 35-years-old. I’m so pleased.

I’ve always wanted to be 35. Always. The earliest I can remember having the thought was when I was thirteen. Become a teenager was a real tragedy for me. I didn’t want to be belligerent, smelly, rebellious, angry, foolish, awkward, etc. That’s what teenagers are like, I reasoned. I was already insecure, afraid and in constant amazement of the complex machine that is adult civilized life. I didn’t want to inch closer to it and go through all of that coming-of-age/first love/college junk. I wanted to skip right to the good stuff. I wanted to be 35.

I think the movie BIG came out around this time.

At 35, I’d have a wife and, possibly, kids. I’d have that figured out and I wouldn’t have to wonder anymore if it was even possible for anyone of the opposite sex to fall in love with me. I’d be done–completely–with school. I’d know what a mortgage is and how to pay it. I’d have a job. Better, I’d know what my job was supposed to be.

I’d know more about God. Maybe I’d even know if he really exists and what he wants me to do in this life.

At thirteen, these were all impossibilities. Giant puzzles I had to put together by myself without the aid of a picture.

35 was the age at which I’d have everything figured out. The Goal Age. Today, I hit it. And all those things my thirteen-year-old self thought he might have accomplished by January 20th, 2012?

Done, every single one. And then some. Thirteen-year-old me would be so jealous.

I hope I never take for granted all that I have and all that I’ve learned. I’m glad I didn’t get to skip those in between years. I think appreciation comes from struggle and hard work. I’m grateful and glad to be 35 in a way thirteen-year-old me never could be.

Can’t wait for 36.



9 thoughts on “The Goal Age

  1. elsee45 says:

    That’s the big difference between men and women. Women never wish to be older than they are. I’m so glad you made it, too, and that you are happy to be where you are!


  2. Tyler Heasley says:

    U.S. Constitution:

    “No person except a natural-born citizen, or citizen of the United States at the time of the adoption of this Constitution, shall be eligible to the office of President; neither shall any person be eligible to that office who shall not have attained to the age of thirty-five years, and been fourteen years a resident within the United States.”

    Though, I didn’t see this anywhere in your age-thirteen goals.


  3. tmcelmurry says:

    Well said Brock. I’m 36 and growing up I always heard people groaning about their 30’s, but I’ve absolutely loved them. At 31 I had my first son, then my second at 32, my family has grown and God’s blessings just continue to pour out. I started my job I have now right before 30 and I remember when I was younger wishing that by 30 I would be in the career of my dreams, and I am. In fact back after High School while working for Wal-Mart my sign on code was 2005, they year I’d turn 30. I always told people if I was still plugging that code in come 2005 then I needed someone to give me a swift kick in the backside cause I had let my dreams slip by for far too long.

    It’s always so amazing when you reach those points in your life that you always just wondered about,then get a chance to reflect back and see how far you’ve come and how much you’ve grown emotionally and spiritually.

    Enjoy your Birthday today Brock, and reflect on all that you’ve accomplished, where you’ve been, and the road that brought you to the place you are now. As you blow out those candles surrounded by those who love you look forward with wide eyes to what lies ahead. I’m sure 45’s gonna Rock just as hard as 35 does.

    Happy Birthday sir.


    • Brock says:

      Thanks for the insight, Todd. I’m glad I’m not the only one who digs their thirties. Some amazing things happened to me in my twenties, no doubt. But I’d have to say that, overall and so far, my thirties are more satisfying. No doubt due in part to feeling like I’m finally coming into my own creatively, but also just because I feel a little more settled in who I am as a person and who I am as a husband a father.


  4. Caseyorourke says:

    I’m 55, but my doctor says no smoking, proper diet and exercise has given me the body of a 35 yr old. Since I’m also an AP teacher, I am always exposed to teenagers and learning how to relate to them has kept me younger especially when the kids ask for stories about life back when I was their age. I love the look of awe on their face when I told them stories of life before the internet and give them eyewitness acounts about things they read about in history.


    • Brock says:

      Casey, that’s awesome. I hope my doctor can say the same thing when I’m 55, but I somehow doubt it! Congrats to you for finding ways to stay young and fit naturally. I love talking with teenagers and teaching them. I’m not a school teacher, but I’ve had multiple chances to interact with them in meaningful ways through church and those are always some of the best times of my life–and the times when I feel the most youthful.


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